“Tomorrow the first blank page of a 365-page book. Write a good one.” – Brad Paisley

As I sit to write, there remain just 12-hours in this 2017 year. Like any other year, there have been highs and lows. Life is like that. Ips and downs. So many of us complain about those changes, I like them. It is what keeps me strong and focused. My life does not remain on autopilot for long. There are too many things which can go wrong with that setting. The things in life over which I have no control are filed under the tab “fuck it.” Those things over which I have control, I accept what I can do and I do it. If I need assistance, that too is OK. I ask for help and use the additional tools and support to achieve success.

I have had in my life the opportunity to have my path cross with that of some amazing teachers. The best teacher I have ever had is my dad. More on him later when he reaches his 80th birthday at the end of March. dad1

The one undeniable truth which I have learned is that in everything there is both happiness and sadness. Sadness is not a bad feeling. It is not a feeling from which we should run nor is it a feeling from which we should cower in fear. If we remain in contact with our feelings and accept them for what they are, we take the opportunity to accept any amount of power we may have to make the changes necessary in our life to overcome those down times and manage the destructive negative feelings in which so many of us wallow in self-pity.

You’re right if you’re thinking there is little in our lives over which we have any if much control. That’s OK. That’s life.

The quote by Brad Paisley goes hand in hand with the man who I have referred to as my spiritual teacher, Thich Nhat Hahn. Thay, as he is often called by his students said, “Waking up this morning, I smile. Twenty-four brand new hours are before me. I vow to live fully in each moment and to look at all beings with eyes of compassion.” It is sad for me to know too few of us realize and accept this fact. Instead, we travel through this wonderful journey kicking and screaming. Instead of problem-solving, we complain expecting things to get better.


“Without effort, there are no rewards. The results you achieve will be in direct proportion to the effort you apply.” – Denis Waitley

I had an interesting year. Like any other, there were ups and downs. I manage the downs like I would hope any of my clients do.

I finished 2016 still frustrated with a knee injury. Instead of following up with a doctor, I sat idly and hoped for it to heal. It did not. There’s that thing about putting forth the effort. I had surgery on my knee on April 6th, just 5-days after waking and experiencing ringing in my ears that would later be diagnosed with Tinnitus.

presurgeryThe ENT I went to see sent for testing to rule-out a diagnosis of Meniere’s Disease. I am grateful the tests were returned negative. Knee surgery resulted in the partial removal of the meniscus in my right knee. The surgeon asked repeatedly that I not return to running but being the stubborn individual that I am, this was not going to be the case. I gave loved running for many years. The solitude from which I reap from this activity is boundless and helps me to maintain some modicum of being centered throughout the day.


As the year progressed, I felt the ringing in my ears which has been a relatively consistent companion had begun to improve. Now improve may be a rather stroing word because there is no cure for this diagnosis, but nonetheless, I found the ringing becoming less and less intrusive. I am sure my daily practice of mindfulness has played a strong supporting role. Regardless, I have looked at this diagnosis, like I have with any other problem, as a challenge to overcome and not just a bad hand of cards from which I have chosen to fold and walk away. That’s one of the beautiful notions of life; there is always another hand. The rules aren’t like poker where we have a single opportunity to trade in a few cards. Until our death, we can have as many do-overs as we want. I love this book. I found it perusing one of my Instagram friends. It contains simple quotes which are more like reminders to not take life too seriously.

never have a bad day again

I don’t look forward to the end of the year for the same reasons that many others do. I don’t make resolutions. For me, that is a lot of wasted time and energy. Instead, I use my daily journal, my daily mindfulness meditation either through sitting meditation or running to help maintain the balance I need to face the adversity that is life. There will always be ups and downs in life. I have accepted this fact, and as a result, my life is much happier.

Happy New Year to everyone and Namaste.


New Years Resolutions

Happy New Year everyone!

This is the time of year when everyone makes those New Years “promises” we all call “resolutions.” It’s a societal ritual. One we all feel compelled to make when we’re out with friends. “Hey, what are your New Years Resolutions?” We’re fearful to say nothing or even worse, “I don’t make/believe in making resolutions.” We become concerned if we say we don’t believe in resolutions we’ll be bombarded with the inevitable questions, eye rolls and head shakes.
You know what I’m talking about. The guilt and often alcohol driven promises which we make to others. Resolutions help reduce the amount of guilt we feel and feel better about many of the poor decisions we have made during the previous year. I Googled “New Years Resolutions” and within 0.34 seconds there were 9,280,000 results. Tell me that isn’t a popular search term! I even found a “New Years Resolution Generator.” Plug in a few terms to describe you and the website will generate resolutions for you. No work involved. One of my favorites was the website which described the New Years Resolutions made by politicians.
Change is not easy. It takes a tremendous amount of energy and focus. Many of us find it easier to make excuses at which we later sit back and laugh. This is a more socially acceptable way to go about making change. After all, no one really expects us to follow through. That’s what making a resolution now means.
I found this description of one Buddhists approach to making resolutions.
“For Buddhists, New Year’s resolutions should never be difficult to write out, the list of intentions never long: our starting line, our journey, our finish line is our meditation cushion. All of our best life practices, all possible outcomes stem from our time on the cushion. The cushion is our resolution. It is where we begin and where we return, day after day, without fear or expectation of ever crossing a finish line. It is what it is, and we are where we are. And where do we go from here? Back to the cushion. Beyond the cushion is not a journey we worry about; that journey will take very excellent care of itself – but only if we learn our long, silent lessons on the cushion. The cushion is teacher, coach, confidante, consoler, cajoler. We will sit and listen to ourselves without judgment or hope of whiter teeth, a better job, a faster marathon time, less stressful relationships. We will sit and listen to ourselves, and the quality of our lives will depend on one thing and one thing only: how closely we’re listening. It’s 2012: sit without hoping and run without measuring; sit, run, and live right where you are. It’s never over, and you’ve always just begun. On your mark. Get set. Go.”
Any thought I had of anything else to this post has been washed away by what my friend has said. Look within.